Red Flags for Falling in Love

"Falling in Love With Getting High" is similar to dating and falling in love with a boy or girl. giverespect.org is a website for parents and teens about "respect" and the "Red Flags" of concerns regarding going steady and being way to serious at a young age.

It's interesting to see the parallels with the change in behavior that comes with teens who love getting high and are in essence, "dating a drug" and keeping it a secret from you as the parent.

Red flags

Here are some of the signs that parents should look out for in their teenagers' relationships:

Air-Conditioner Huffing

My wife and I watched a news special about young adults using the freon in an air conditioner to get high, I’ve heard about this in the past but had no idea that it was still being done. Just another example of the desperation connected to “loving to get high”.

To read more click on this link.

The danger is drastic, but the need to get high keeps a young person for considering the risk.

Not My Kid!

Parent Denial is thinking other kids, are getting high, “but not my kid”. How we as parents underestimate the idea that our own “innocent teen” is getting high is surveyed and written about in this Web-MD post. Here’s an excerpt:

Sept. 15, 2011 — When it comes to parents thinking about their own teens, they often put blinders on. A national poll finds that parents underestimate the likelihood that their own teenager has used alcohol or marijuana, while overestimating the drug use of other teens.

NPR: Why Students Love Getting Wasted

Why college students drink too much and party so hard, is the sub-title of a book called Getting Wasted by Thomas Vander Ven. Thomas was interviewed on NPR, talking about the 7 years of research he did finding out why college kids drink too much, in the form of ‘binge drinking’. Reasons include; it’s fun, it allows them to do things that they would not normally do, and it creates a world of adventure.

This research reinforces my conclusion that kids who end up addicted begin by “loving to get high”. Click here to get access to the on-air interview and a short summary of Dr Vander Ven’s research.

Your Gut is Telling You Something.

Your gut is saying something is going on with your teen, but you can’t figure out what it is. Things don’t add up, something is missing, things have changed but you’re not sure what. When you ask questions you get answers that just make everything more confusing. Your mind goes wild with possibilities; drugs, gangs, sex, porn. No matter what you do or think it doesn’t get better.